How to build your child’s self-esteem!

I was raised by a mom who believed in me…

Because of my mom, I know how to believe. 

Believe in myself, believe in my husband and believe in my daughter. 

I’ve written before about Emily’s self-esteem. 

Emily’s fashion choices

Karaoke
Today, I want to show you and tell you about Emily’s schoolwork. 

This first page was done at school.  

I loved her answers. 

She doesn’t believe in love at first sight, in order for a relationship to survive, you should not argue and you know your relationship is in trouble when one person quits.  
What is she looking for in her soulmate?  He needs to love dogs, the Big Bang Theory and cheerleaders. He should be tall with hazel colored eyes and love to laugh. 

Isn’t that just beautiful?

Now, the homework part. 

Emily had to define herself using this list of words.    

She read all the words and told me what they meant. Some of the words I had to explained to her. 

I had her circle the ones she felt applied to her. 

She circled 19 words. 

  1. Leader
  2. Creative
  3. Musical
  4. Funny
  5. Agreeable
  6. Honest
  7. Thoughtful
  8. Loving
  9. Family oriented
  10. Upbeat
  11. Brave
  12. Hardworking
  13. Friendly 
  14. Kind
  15. Happy
  16. Fearless 
  17. Peaceful
  18. Respectable
  19. Focused

My girl!

We needed to shorten the list and she crossed 9 off and kept her top 10.

  1. Musical
  2. Funny
  3. Honest
  4. Loving
  5. Family oriented
  6. Hardworking
  7. Friendly 
  8. Kind
  9. Happy
  10. Fearless 

We needed to define 8 and pick 5 that define her. 
 

In the end, she picked 

  1. Musical
  2. Happy
  3. Fearless
  4. Honest
  5. Funny

My girl! 

I am so proud of her!

I’ve said since day 1 that I would build Emily up so high that she would forever believe in herself. 

I think I’ve done well in her first 17 years and I promise to continue!

How do I do it?

  1. Lots of love 
  2. Tons of positive reinforcement
  3. We don’t give up or quit when it gets difficult. 
  4. We laugh a lot together and laugh at ourselves too. 
  5. We work hard
  6. We celebrate our successes, no matter how small.  

 

My man

Earlier this week, we celebrated our 17th wedding anniversary. 

As a little girl, I didn’t dream of wedding…

As a teenager and young adult I couldn’t imagine being married to one person for the rest of my life…

I have had 3 relationships of importance before meeting Jonathan. 

I dated my high school sweetheart for 2 years. 

Dated a guy in college for a year. 

Was single for a year than dated another guy for 2 years, we lived together for that second year and I realized on a road trip that he wasn’t the guy for me…

Jonathan was different. 

He was mysterious… 

He was speaking a foreign language (English πŸ˜‰)…

He was sexy! 😍

We didn’t plan to fall in love!

We both had plans to work in Mont-Tremblant, QuΓ©bec for awhile than move on with our careers. 

We started dating in Dec 1996…

I moved in his appartment on Feb 1st 1997… To save money and let’s be honest, he lived closer to work than I did 😜

May 1997, we embarked on a road trip… We drove at least 3,000 km together.   

My family didn’t speak English…. Jon’s French was basic and my English was improving. 

I remember my mom telling me that this guy was different! 

Mom knows best right?

πŸ’—πŸ’“πŸ’•πŸ’–πŸ’žπŸ’˜

I sometimes imagine conversations in my head. 

Our daughter is 17… 

We talk about many things but we also don’t talk about even more things so I imagine…  I will be ready if she ever asks me how I knew he was the guy for me. 

πŸ’—πŸ’“πŸ’•πŸ’–πŸ’žπŸ’˜

The truth is, I didn’t know. 

We were not planning on being together forever so we never felt the need to pretend. 

When we fell in love, we fell for each other. 

No games, no being extra nice, no wearing make-up and being available whenever he wanted me to. 

Jonathan learned not to wake me up for no reasons. 

I learned to give him space and go with the flow…. 

To be honest, I’m still working on the going with the flow thing…

That’s what my mom saw!

She saw “ME” with Jonathan. 

She saw me being myself, she saw me laugh and she saw me happy!

Over the months, it became obvious that what we had wasn’t temporary.  

I went from not being able to imagine being married to not being able to see my life without him in it!

 
So if Emily ever asks me how I knew…

I will have to say that it felt right…

Jonathan allowed me to be myself, loved me without asking for anything in return, accepted me the way I was (good, awesome and not so good sides), made me laugh, spoiled me with attention and shared my values. 

I believe I did the same for him!

πŸ’—πŸ’“πŸ’•πŸ’–πŸ’žπŸ’˜

Almost 19 years together and 17 years married…

We faced more as a couple than we ever signed up for!  

How do I know he is still my guy?

When my legs hurt, he rubs A535 on them. 

When I’m sad, he holds me in his arms. 

When I need cake, ice cream or chips… He says he won’t go get it but he goes 😍

When there is just too much going on in my head, he holds me till I fall asleep. 

When I’m down, he lifts me up. 

When he’s off, he makes us dinner! 

 
I believe I do as much for him as he does for me which is part of what keeps us together. 

My man!