My man

Earlier this week, we celebrated our 17th wedding anniversary. 

As a little girl, I didn’t dream of wedding…

As a teenager and young adult I couldn’t imagine being married to one person for the rest of my life…

I have had 3 relationships of importance before meeting Jonathan. 

I dated my high school sweetheart for 2 years. 

Dated a guy in college for a year. 

Was single for a year than dated another guy for 2 years, we lived together for that second year and I realized on a road trip that he wasn’t the guy for me…

Jonathan was different. 

He was mysterious… 

He was speaking a foreign language (English πŸ˜‰)…

He was sexy! 😍

We didn’t plan to fall in love!

We both had plans to work in Mont-Tremblant, QuΓ©bec for awhile than move on with our careers. 

We started dating in Dec 1996…

I moved in his appartment on Feb 1st 1997… To save money and let’s be honest, he lived closer to work than I did 😜

May 1997, we embarked on a road trip… We drove at least 3,000 km together.   

My family didn’t speak English…. Jon’s French was basic and my English was improving. 

I remember my mom telling me that this guy was different! 

Mom knows best right?

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I sometimes imagine conversations in my head. 

Our daughter is 17… 

We talk about many things but we also don’t talk about even more things so I imagine…  I will be ready if she ever asks me how I knew he was the guy for me. 

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The truth is, I didn’t know. 

We were not planning on being together forever so we never felt the need to pretend. 

When we fell in love, we fell for each other. 

No games, no being extra nice, no wearing make-up and being available whenever he wanted me to. 

Jonathan learned not to wake me up for no reasons. 

I learned to give him space and go with the flow…. 

To be honest, I’m still working on the going with the flow thing…

That’s what my mom saw!

She saw “ME” with Jonathan. 

She saw me being myself, she saw me laugh and she saw me happy!

Over the months, it became obvious that what we had wasn’t temporary.  

I went from not being able to imagine being married to not being able to see my life without him in it!

 
So if Emily ever asks me how I knew…

I will have to say that it felt right…

Jonathan allowed me to be myself, loved me without asking for anything in return, accepted me the way I was (good, awesome and not so good sides), made me laugh, spoiled me with attention and shared my values. 

I believe I did the same for him!

πŸ’—πŸ’“πŸ’•πŸ’–πŸ’žπŸ’˜

Almost 19 years together and 17 years married…

We faced more as a couple than we ever signed up for!  

How do I know he is still my guy?

When my legs hurt, he rubs A535 on them. 

When I’m sad, he holds me in his arms. 

When I need cake, ice cream or chips… He says he won’t go get it but he goes 😍

When there is just too much going on in my head, he holds me till I fall asleep. 

When I’m down, he lifts me up. 

When he’s off, he makes us dinner! 

 
I believe I do as much for him as he does for me which is part of what keeps us together. 

My man!     

 

15th Anniversary

Emily has to be the only kid with a Christening Anniversary πŸ™‚

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When I was little I didn’t dream of big wedding, I didn’t dream of wedding at all.

I didn’t daydream about getting a new last name.

This was never an objective in my life.

I was going to have a career and by the time I was 25, I would figure out how to have a baby, most likely on my own as I doubted I would ever find someone I would want to spend the rest of my life with.

The rest of my life when I was a teenager seemed to be way too long to plan to spend it with one person.

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When I met Jonathan, I didn’t plan on spending the rest of my life with him.

We worked at the same place, him in the kitchen, me in the dining room.

My English was barely good enough to be a server, Jon had no French at all.

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Conversation was not part of the original attraction.

We both had plans that didn’t include each other.

We both got caught off guard.

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Oct.5th 1998

Jon and I married and Emily was christened.

Today is our anniversary!  All 3 of us are celebrating!

Emily has to be the only kid with a Christening Anniversary πŸ™‚

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By the time we got married, we had Emily, we owned our house (well, we owned the mortgage) and had a dog!

I married because it felt right, not because I had to.

I married without questioning how long forever was going to be.

So far, as of 10am this morning, it’s been 15 years of us being married.  Almost 17 years together.  By June 2014, I will have spent as much time living with my husband as I did living with my mom.  πŸ™‚

I love my husband even tough he drives me nuts!

There are so many things he does or doesn’t do that are getting on my nerves…

Will I leave him because of these things?  Maybe….

LOL!  He reads my blog so might as well play with him a little.

All those things that are driving me nuts are the things that attracted me at first.

He does things without thinking first.  He doesn’t care if the kitchen is a mess.  He is a night bird.  He spends money as if there is no tomorrow… and so much more!

I love him!

I think too much, I care too much about the little things that needs to be done, I make lists and stick them everywhere, I sleep at night and I save my money….  ok, that last one isn’t true.  I budget and make sure we can live a happy life and treat ourselves when we want to.

If we were both like me, life would be boring.  There is no way I would live with someone like me.  I have no idea why he is still with me.

From day one, our friends tried to keep us apart but somehow we are still together.

Our life has been stressful.  We have had all the reasons in the world to fall apart but we decided to pull it together.

The fact that we are so different has served us well over the years.  We ask different questions, we hear different answers, I take notes while he keeps talking.  He pushes issues and asks the difficult questions when I can’t.

He is my rock and I adore him although from time to time…  πŸ™‚

Happy Anniversary Honey!  I love you!

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