My man

Earlier this week, we celebrated our 17th wedding anniversary. 

As a little girl, I didn’t dream of wedding…

As a teenager and young adult I couldn’t imagine being married to one person for the rest of my life…

I have had 3 relationships of importance before meeting Jonathan. 

I dated my high school sweetheart for 2 years. 

Dated a guy in college for a year. 

Was single for a year than dated another guy for 2 years, we lived together for that second year and I realized on a road trip that he wasn’t the guy for me…

Jonathan was different. 

He was mysterious… 

He was speaking a foreign language (English πŸ˜‰)…

He was sexy! 😍

We didn’t plan to fall in love!

We both had plans to work in Mont-Tremblant, QuΓ©bec for awhile than move on with our careers. 

We started dating in Dec 1996…

I moved in his appartment on Feb 1st 1997… To save money and let’s be honest, he lived closer to work than I did 😜

May 1997, we embarked on a road trip… We drove at least 3,000 km together.   

My family didn’t speak English…. Jon’s French was basic and my English was improving. 

I remember my mom telling me that this guy was different! 

Mom knows best right?

πŸ’—πŸ’“πŸ’•πŸ’–πŸ’žπŸ’˜

I sometimes imagine conversations in my head. 

Our daughter is 17… 

We talk about many things but we also don’t talk about even more things so I imagine…  I will be ready if she ever asks me how I knew he was the guy for me. 

πŸ’—πŸ’“πŸ’•πŸ’–πŸ’žπŸ’˜

The truth is, I didn’t know. 

We were not planning on being together forever so we never felt the need to pretend. 

When we fell in love, we fell for each other. 

No games, no being extra nice, no wearing make-up and being available whenever he wanted me to. 

Jonathan learned not to wake me up for no reasons. 

I learned to give him space and go with the flow…. 

To be honest, I’m still working on the going with the flow thing…

That’s what my mom saw!

She saw “ME” with Jonathan. 

She saw me being myself, she saw me laugh and she saw me happy!

Over the months, it became obvious that what we had wasn’t temporary.  

I went from not being able to imagine being married to not being able to see my life without him in it!

 
So if Emily ever asks me how I knew…

I will have to say that it felt right…

Jonathan allowed me to be myself, loved me without asking for anything in return, accepted me the way I was (good, awesome and not so good sides), made me laugh, spoiled me with attention and shared my values. 

I believe I did the same for him!

πŸ’—πŸ’“πŸ’•πŸ’–πŸ’žπŸ’˜

Almost 19 years together and 17 years married…

We faced more as a couple than we ever signed up for!  

How do I know he is still my guy?

When my legs hurt, he rubs A535 on them. 

When I’m sad, he holds me in his arms. 

When I need cake, ice cream or chips… He says he won’t go get it but he goes 😍

When there is just too much going on in my head, he holds me till I fall asleep. 

When I’m down, he lifts me up. 

When he’s off, he makes us dinner! 

 
I believe I do as much for him as he does for me which is part of what keeps us together. 

My man!     

 

My first negative comment

I knew it would happen at some point.

I figured my post about “The God emails” would be the one…

Than I thought maybe this one would do it : Segregation or Association of like minded people

But I never imagined it would be this one : I forgot father’s day

Yes, forgetting father’s day is bad but I truly thought my post was clear about the fact that I celebrate father’s day all year long.  I refuse to wait for my calendar to tell me it’s time to tell Jonathan he is awesome.

So back to my negative comment…

Because I moderate my comments from first time commenters, I could have just delete this comment today.

I didn’t….

I approved it.  I didn’t like it but I approved it than I replied to it.

I am not sure if this was spam or real and I don’t know if he will see my reply.

As my friend Sue said when I showed her the comment… “who peed in his cereals this morning?” πŸ™‚  We will probably never know but I hope for his sake that one day he gets the recognition he so wants.

What about you?  Do you get negative comments on your blog?  Do you approve them or delete them?  Do you reply?

How do you handle negative comments?

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