1st day of 11th grade

Yesterday, my really positive self was having a hard time and I wasn’t allowed (by my computer) to tell you!  Somehow my app crashed when I tried to publish my post.

I am not often down but last night, I was.

After dinner Emily wanted to do a puzzle, she started to divide the pieces than called me.  She needed help.

That’s when it hit me.  My beautiful, talented, smart, determine, courageous daughter needed help with a 100 pieces puzzle.

24 hours later, I realize it was never about the puzzle.

It was about the list of everything left to do before the beginning of school:

  1. Verify Emily’s school supplies
  2. Pack her bag
  3. Make sure she goes to bed at a reasonable time
  4. Get up earlier than usual
  5. Get the 2 of us ready for our day… and I mean that literally.
  6. Make sure Jon packs a healthy lunch and snacks
  7. Take Emily to school and walk in with her
  8. Confirm that all is in place for her
  9. Go to work
  10. Go back to school mid-day for our first IEP meeting
  11. Go back to work
  12. Go back to school a third time to pick Emily up at the end of the day
  13. Drop her home
  14. Go back to work

I don’t mind all of these things… but out of nowhere last night I remembered the summer I was 17, I had a job than moved away in the fall to go to college.  By this time, I was living on my own in Montreal…

Verify school supplies, pack her bag, help her get ready, ….

This sucks

Not for me…  ok, maybe a little bit for me but mostly for her, even if she doesn’t feel it.

This f***ing sucks!

So… because I don’t like being down and quite frankly don’t have time for it, I’ve been finding reasons to be happy.

My gorgeous daughter on her first day of 11th grade.

When we were ready for me to leave her at school this morning, she gave me a hug and tried to kiss me with those bright pink lips

My girl loves me and doesn’t care who’s looking.  That makes me super happy!

The school agreed to make an exception for us to drop and pick Emily off in what we feel is the safest way for her.  Most people don’t realize that she has mobility and balance issues because they see her in an environment that she knows.  Emily only uses one eye at the time, her depth perception is not there and when she doesn’t know her surroundings, she can’t tell if the ground is flat or not which makes it really dangerous for her…

Try imagining the challenges this presents!

The fact that the school understands this, makes me happy!Emily’s friend B is in 9th grade, after 6 or 7 years in different schools, they are reunited.  Today… they had lunch together 🙂  Emily who some people say is difficult to understand when she speaks and her friend B who uses sign language spent lunch “talking”

Those two are awesome and that makes me really happy too!

What else…..?

In a week, I am going to feel like a teenager again as Jon and I are going to see The Scorpions live in concert!  50th anniversary World Tour!  I don’t care how old they are, I am going to have a blast!

I finally got my dogs a new pillow and it hasn’t been destroyed yet!  Here’s to hoping the chewing is done because that would make me really happy!

First high school meeting

October 4th 9:30am

A month and a day after the first day of high school…

We finally had our first school meeting to review Emily’s specialized education plan.

Jon came with me as I wanted him there in case it didn’t go the way I hoped. He is my rock.

So, yesterday morning we sat down and discuss:
1. Accommodation
2. Modification
3. Individualization

Yesterday I learned that there is a lunch club or best buddy program at the high school. On Tuesdays and/or Wednesdays, Emily is having lunch with grade 11 & 12 mentors and she’s talking with them. She apparently has quite an audience!

And a month later, I learn about it.

This was a 30 second item of discussion. I should have known about this already. Shouldn’t I?

We talked about some other things that are already happening and some that will be put in place.

Emily will help with the soup program and help with cleaning and straightening the cafeteria. She won’t mop the floor but will wipe the tables. I’m ok with that, I want her to learn some responsibilities.

She will take part of a social skills club which is a great opportunity for her and there was some talk about personal safety.

I mentioned that I was elected as part of the PSSC and that my main contribution would be on the exceptional students front. I briefly told her about the disappointments and struggle of Emily’s first day and she provided the explanation which I had figured out on my own.

She wasn’t at this school last year, wasn’t part of the transition plan meetings and so on.

Maybe I’m too harsh but…

In my work, I need to provide continuity if I am not there. When I transfer in or out, I care enough about the job I’m leaving to take upon myself to help my successor succeed.

I might be the exception but I believe that it is a reflection of who I am as a person and an employee.

I prepare for the person replacing me and a prepare for my new role.

I have moved within my company 3 times and could be moving again.

I expect the same of other people around me. I work with my team on building training manual and reference tools. I believe strongly in cross-training and documenting. I believe on making transitions as seamless as possible.


You got a new position? Congratulations.
How will you be sure you are ready on your first day?
If your work is impacting others, how will you provide continuity through a seamless transition?


My picture has nothing to do with my post except that the leaves are falling, it’s my favorite season of the year and regardless of everything that is or isn’t going on, I am happy because I decide to be. Look at Jake wanting to play soccer! That’s enough to make you smile too right?