friendship | Lessons from my daughter

Emily has to be the only kid with a Christening Anniversary 🙂

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When I was little I didn’t dream of big wedding, I didn’t dream of wedding at all.

I didn’t daydream about getting a new last name.

This was never an objective in my life.

I was going to have a career and by the time I was 25, I would figure out how to have a baby, most likely on my own as I doubted I would ever find someone I would want to spend the rest of my life with.

The rest of my life when I was a teenager seemed to be way too long to plan to spend it with one person.

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When I met Jonathan, I didn’t plan on spending the rest of my life with him.

We worked at the same place, him in the kitchen, me in the dining room.

My English was barely good enough to be a server, Jon had no French at all.

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Conversation was not part of the original attraction.

We both had plans that didn’t include each other.

We both got caught off guard.

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Oct.5th 1998

Jon and I married and Emily was christened.

Today is our anniversary! All 3 of us are celebrating!

Emily has to be the only kid with a Christening Anniversary 🙂

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By the time we got married, we had Emily, we owned our house (well, we owned the mortgage) and had a dog!

I married because it felt right, not because I had to.

I married without questioning how long forever was going to be.

So far, as of 10am this morning, it’s been 15 years of us being married. Almost 17 years together. By June 2014, I will have spent as much time living with my husband as I did living with my mom. 🙂

I love my husband even tough he drives me nuts!

There are so many things he does or doesn’t do that are getting on my nerves…

Will I leave him because of these things? Maybe….

LOL! He reads my blog so might as well play with him a little.

All those things that are driving me nuts are the things that attracted me at first.

He does things without thinking first. He doesn’t care if the kitchen is a mess. He is a night bird. He spends money as if there is no tomorrow… and so much more!

I love him!

I think too much, I care too much about the little things that needs to be done, I make lists and stick them everywhere, I sleep at night and I save my money…. ok, that last one isn’t true. I budget and make sure we can live a happy life and treat ourselves when we want to.

If we were both like me, life would be boring. There is no way I would live with someone like me. I have no idea why he is still with me.

From day one, our friends tried to keep us apart but somehow we are still together.

Our life has been stressful. We have had all the reasons in the world to fall apart but we decided to pull it together.

The fact that we are so different has served us well over the years. We ask different questions, we hear different answers, I take notes while he keeps talking. He pushes issues and asks the difficult questions when I can’t.

He is my rock and I adore him although from time to time… 🙂

Happy Anniversary Honey! I love you!

I love this time of year.

Fall is beautiful, the leaves are turning all kinds of pretty red and yellow shades.

The weather is cool, sometime border line cold.

It’s perfect weather to be cooking up a feast.

It’s the perfect time to go apple picking.

My friend Lise is a photographer. She takes amazing pictures of things and places…. I am sure there is a word for that type of picture, I just don’t know. what it is. (Remember, my mother tongue is French, there are English words I still don’t know) Currently, she’s working on adding people to her repertoire so I offered up Emily as a subject :).

We were meeting at the Belliveau Orchard right after lunch today. It was my first visit there and Emily had been once before with school.

http://www.vergerbelliveauorchard.ca

We got there at 12:30

The apple picking season is short so this was a busy place today with a 22 Celsius weather.

It took us a good half hour to make it through the gate. We stood in line and watch the kids play on the hay bales.

Emily didn’t ask to go play with them. Too many kids and a whole lot of opportunities to get hurt. It’s amazing how I now see this… I guess that’s a perk of being a parent of a child with mobility challenges.

They have a corn maze there too but that didn’t attract us so off we went to pick some apple.

Emily was listening to Lise quite well.

This was our way in the orchard.

My beautiful daughter played the role of model really well for Lise.

I got to take some pictures too.

We even managed to convince Emily to lay down in the orchard. Now considering her lack of desire to even walk bare feet on grass… to have her accept to do this was quite an accomplishment.