Inspiration | Lessons from my daughter

Earlier this week, I received this from Emily

I read Emily’s text once and knew exactly what happened.

She plugged her Sony speaker in the kitchen and Jake tore it apart.

I looked at how she quantified her emotions by adding “so” in front of upset and I truly appreciated how she added a picture when she didn’t know how to spell “plug for my speaker”.

She’s resourceful!

My girl texted me a nearly perfect sentence with a picture to complement it.

I am so proud of her.

Following the reception of the text, I called her.

Hi baby

Hi mom, I’m so upset!

I know, what happened?

It’s ruined! Jake eat it.

Yeah, I saw that. Did you yell at Jake?

I wanted to but no.

Did you hit him?

I wanted to but I don’t do that.

Good! You know that yelling or hitting won’t fix it right and Jake is a big dog so I’m glad you didn’t do anything. Did you tell dad?

No, he’s working.

Good!

Did you learn something?

….

Em, did you learn something?

…

How about you don’t plug things over the dog’s pillow?

Yeah.

Ok, we will buy you another plug. Just move your speaker somewhere safe for now.

Ok.

Love you.

Love you too.

I smiles through this whole conversation. So pleased with the young lady I am raising.

Following this conversation, I forwarded all the info to hubby who works from home and was in the house when this happened.

I needed him to know so he would continue with the same attitude I showed and not over react when he came upstairs for his break.

I was so proud of Emily and not just for her awesome text but mostly for not over reacting, not creating a situation where our 85 lbs dog could have over powered her and for not bothering her father with this.

What a change we’ve seen in the last couple of years.

Emily is maturing and tutoring is paying off, she’s reading and writing more.

I can only imagine that this is how the dogs looked like after this adventure.

PS. I know I’ve been MIA lately! We were traveling in Alberta and British Columbia (Canadian Rockies and West coast). I will tell you about our trip soon but I strongly suggest you start following Lessons from my daughter on Facebook in order to see more pictures as I can’t possibly put them all here 🙂

I hope to see you soon over there!

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Since the day Emily was born, I have been responsible for her.

“Normally” parents guide and help their little ones learn and grow than slowly watch them fly on their own.

In our world the guiding and helping will most likely be a life long task of mine and I am at peace with that.

It’s almost automatic now for me to ask clarifying questions and reach out to understand what’s expected of Emily so I can familiarize myself with it than help Emily learn, understand, practice or whatever else it is she needs to do.

This past year I failed to ask questions and understand what “cheer sisters” meant. 😢

At Emily’s first showcase ever, she was assigned Calysta as a cheer sister.

Dear Calysta,

I owe you an apology for not realizing this was a season long sisterhood. I didn’t ask questions and I failed both you and Emily in the process but you didn’t give up on my girl.

I remember seeing you around, you provided encouragements and you cheered for Emily even when she didn’t quite do the same for you.

See, I should have written down your name and taken a pictures of you two together. It would have helped Emily remember who her cheer sister was. I should have talked to Emily about you and encourage her to talk to you at the gym instead of putting all of it on you.

I promise you that I will be better at this.

I will be better because you didn’t give up on Emily.

On Saturday, after her performance, you walked on that mat and gave Emily a flower. Emily said thanks and walked away. You must have hoped for a little bit more from Emily but that’s all you got.

Again, I’m so sorry, I didn’t know.

But on Saturday, I really saw you and I wondered why you showed so much kindness to Emily.

Later, I saw your dad’s Facebook post about Emily’s performance, stating that she was your cheer sister and it all made sense.

Thank you Calysta for not giving up on Emily.

Thank you for your encouragements and kindness.

You are a wonderful young lady and Emily loved your flower!

It made the trip home with us and although Emily didn’t know who you were and why you gave her a flower, she was touched in her own way.

I will talk to Emily about you and hopefully next time we see you, she will say hello and slowly, she will learn your name.