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I am not a special needs mom!

I am a mom!   

 
I am the mom of an amazing daughter who has special needs but I am not a special needs mom!

My needs are not specials. 

What I want for my daughter is what you want for your kids. 

I want her to learn and grow 

I want her to reach her full potential

I want her to be happy and a little silly 

 
I want her to have friends and be part of a team

 
I want her to fall in love

I want her to contribute to society

I want her to mater

I want the world to see her the way I see her 

 
What I want for my daughter is not special at all. 

I am not a special needs mom!

I am a mom! 

 
What is special is what I had to and still have to do to get Emily anywhere near what we both (you and I) want for our kids. 

What is special, is the people that we will need to help her get there. 

Many doctors will continue to stare at her, study her, poke her. 

Many hours of therapies will be required.  Physiotherapy, Occupational therapy, Speech therapy…

While you were buying soccer equipment or ballet shoes, we were looking at walkers and communication devices.   

Because, just like you I want my child, to walk, run, play, jump around… Just like you I want my child to talk to me! 

 
When we dropped Emily off for kindergarten, we already had many meetings to discuss Emily’s abilities and challenges. We met her specialized educator (or educational assistant) and knew she would be safe. We do that, every year. This year will be her 13th year of school and I will still do that.  Because, just like you, I want my child to be safe and comfortable at school. I want her to learn and grow. 

A specialized education plan is required.  Your child will follow the group, mine will fall behind.  But regardless how far back she is, she is still learning and she deserves the opportunity to continue to learn. 

When you are thinking about how you are going to pay for college and university, I’m thinking about how I am going to pay for tutoring. 

When you will help your kids relocate for school or work, I will be teaching mine life skills and we will be looking at moving to a house where she can have her own space. 

When your child will go for a job interview and start their career, I am hoping mine will too. 

Because when all is said and done, I am a mom and what I want for my girl is what you want for your kids. 

I want her to learn and grow 

I want her to reach her full potential

I want her to be happy 

 
I want her to have friends 

I want her to fall in love 

 
I want her to contribute to society

I want her to mater

Nothing special, really!

Next time you look at a kid with special needs and feel like the world has to bend backward for him or her, please take a second to think that what we want for our kids is no different than what you want. 

What is different is what we will do to get there. 

 
I  not a special needs mom!

I am a mom!

 

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42 thoughts on “I am not a special needs mom!

  1. Reblogged this on Lessons from my daughter and commented:

    I firmly believe in naming a person before stating a diagnosis or other identifier. Emily is Emily! She has Cri du chat syndrome but she’s not a Cri du chat syndrome kid or a special need kid… She a young lady with special needs, the same goes for me, I am not a special need mom. I am a mom, the mom of a daughter who has special needs… Does that make sense?

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    • Thank you for reading. I am really passionate about my daughter and our journey is the reason for my blog. I’m glad you found it and even happier that you found this particular post wonderful.

  3. I absolutely agree! Everyone is equal, regardless of what you have written about…. I know all about this. I was never one to make friends easily – still happens today. All I need is someone to understand and support me through the hard times….

      • I think it’s what defines us as well… I am stronger in life. I help people understand mental illness (I suffer from anxiety) and the day-to-day struggles we have as sufferers

  4. Very well said. Every child is special in any number of ways. The demands on the parents may be different, but they still will need to sacrifice many things. It’s just that some parents must dedicate more time, money and effort to give their children the possibility of the dream. And that’s okay also when we love that child more than life itself.

  5. Reblogged this on Never Less Than Everything and commented:
    “Next time you look at a kid with special needs and feel like the world has to bend backward for him or her, please take a second to think that what we want for our kids is no different than what you want.”
    Beautiful! Please comment on the original post. Comments are disabled here.

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