New year resolutions

What’s your take on new year’s resolution?

I don’t “do” the resolutions thing.

The closest I’ve ever been to something similar to a new year resolution was a “morning after” promise to never drink as much as I had done the previous evening… I was 19 (legal to drink where I lived) and I have to say… I’ve been drunk since but never like I was that time… This decision has stayed with me for almost 20 years now.

Back to resolutions…

Probably for the same reasons I don’t wait for Valentine’s Day to profess my love to the people in my life… I don’t look at January 1st as a new beginning.

It’s true that I desire to lose weight. I would love to be healthier. A healthy back is something I dream of…

How will I get there?

By making small changes here and there… By taking time for myself. By loving who I am and feeling like I deserve to be healthier.

Is that a Resolution? I don’t think so because I can’t fail. I’m not saying I need to lose 50lbs. I’m saying that I will love who I am and take care of myself.

Can I measure my success? Depends who you ask I guess…

Over the last week, I’ve been heartbroken reading Facebook status of people who had decided last year at this time that 2013 was going to be the year their child would walk… It didn’t happen. They were upset, not at their child but at life…

I have never put any deadlines on Emily’s progress. Within months of her being born I had thrown out the what to expect in the first year baby book we had.

She didn’t meet any milestones.

After her diagnosis, I took what the doctors said and decided that Emily would do what she could and that we would adjust to her.

If she grew-up without being able to walk, we would get a wheelchair, get a better house for her to be able to navigate on her own, get a different car…

She couldn’t talk, not one specialist believed she would. We thought she would but learned sign language to help her. We got a PECS system for school… We found ways until she found her voice.

She couldn’t figure out the potty? We kept at it and did our best not to get frustrated by it.

If we had set a yearly goal for her to be toilet trained, we would have been upset…

Disappointed…

On a yearly basis…

For multiple years…

Instead, we figured the doctor could have been right and that this could be one of those things that she just wouldn’t be able to learn.

We didn’t give up but we didn’t put pressure on us and tried not to pressure Emily. We didn’t her to feel self conscious about this. It doesn’t help anything when you feel bad about yourself…!

Slowly, she learned. She got it!

We celebrated!!!

So here I am, applying the same thinking to my “non” resolutions.

No plans, small changes here and there. Keep at it… Love yourself. Believe in yourself.

Keep the desired outcome in mind when making decisions…

Celebrate every small steps.

Is this a resolution?

Do you make resolutions?

Ok, fine… I made one, years ago. I decided to be happy… Every single day, I make the same decision… Today is going to be a great day. Today I’m happy! I wish to continue to be happy on my birthday cake candles and on fish bone wishes. Any wishes really :).

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Happy New Year

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Don’t worry, it’s not wine although she likes to pretend it is!

For several years now, we buy sparkling apple or grape juice for Emily for Christmas so she gets to drink in a fancy wine glass with us and she gets to celebrate!

She loves it!

I’ve been on vacations since Dec.20th and this morning (Jan.4th) is the first day I had to get up as Emily had tutoring.

Monday will be back to work for me and Tuesday will be back to school for Em.

I enjoyed my 2 weeks with her. My mom visited for the first week which means she was here for Christmas.

We spent the first 3 days of her visit cleaning my house. Not that we are extremely messy but in the last month Jon made us a new kitchen counter which he sanded… In the kitchen!

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I adore my husband but that red dust was everywhere…

So my “lets clean up quickly” turned into “let’s empty everything, clean, decide if we are keeping that stuff than put it back…”

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This is what we ended up donating by the end of cleaning day #3

That made me happy as we just own to much stuff. This will all go to people who need if rather than just want it.

Once the kitchen was cleaned we went into cooking mode… à la québécoise! I am French Canadian after all which means that my traditions are different. I am also a unique individual which means that I would be different anyway… I’ve never been a fan of all being the same, doing things because others are doing it. My husband’s traditions are different from mine so we are a blended family with our own traditions.

I LOVE IT!

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First, regardless of how many people might come by, we need a full bar.

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Gifts are under the tree as soon as they are wrapped. It’s a form of parental abuse I’m sure but we all enjoy it!

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Making cookies for Santa on our new counter.

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Poupounes!

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Meat pies.

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Cipailles!

My fridge was so full of food. It all tasted like home. It was fabulous.

If everything goes well, we should be done eating all of it by end of day tomorrow!

🙂

After all, there’s only the 3 of us.

Mom left on the 27th.

Overall, we had a great Christmas with just enough gifts. We didn’t over do it. I got to spend time with my mom and my family. We ate too much and we’ve been watching hockey almost daily.

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World Junior Championship! It’s a holiday tradition. It’s funny how we even make sure not to call each other during a Canada game. I was chatting with my nephew the other day and we both said we had to go as the game was about to start. :).

We lost power on December 23rd but were lucky to be reconnected within 9 hours… For others, it lasted over a week… We went from no snow to not knowing where to put it within a week or so. Crazy weather but in the end it doesn’t matter. We were together, staying warm and enjoying family time.

New Year’s Eve was spent in pajamas. Jon got us McDonalds at 11:30pm and we watched the countdown on tv direct from NYC. Of course, our new year came an hour before it did on tv but it was fun to watch images from NYC as we were there this past July.

Facebook has been full of people reflecting on 2013, mostly reflecting on all the bad and wishing for a better 2014…

I can’t do that!

I was a rather positive person before Emily. I always believed in removing negativity from my life and embracing happiness. Since Emily, I have learned to celebrate everything every success and look at challenges as what they are… A challenge. Can we overcome it? Yes or No. If we can than let’s do it. If we can’t than let’s look at alternatives.

Over the years I’ve been hurt but I’m looking at those as learning opportunities. Did I learn something from it? Yes. Than fine, that made me who I am and now I can move on.

When thinking about the past year, I see a new puppy, a trip to NYC, new friends, new milestones… Overall, a great year! I refuse to focus on challenges and negativity!

From my family to yours.

Happy new year!

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