Interview with Kathy! Let’s meet N.

Soon, I will be reaching out to my Cri du chat family, once again, to ask if anyone is interested to answer questions and be featured here, on Lessons from my daughter.

You might not get the comments and you can’t see how many views my posts are getting but each time I post an interview, we as a group, get more exposure.  You share my post, your friends read it and they share or ask questions…

Slowly, we help spread the words about Cri du Chat Syndrome but mostly, we show people how amazing our kids are and how incredible are their achievements.

We raise awareness, together; and for that I thank you.

So today, we chat with Kathy!


Hello Kathy, let’s start with you telling me about your family?

My husband and I were married almost eight years ago and have two boys. M is our five-year-old and N is our two-year-old, who has Cri du chat syndrome. N is our surprise baby. We were planning to adopt because my pregnancy with M. was incredibly difficult. So N surprised us in more ways than one.

We live in Texas and love being together outside — biking, hiking, swimming, trying new restaurants and doing various activities around town. Our faith is important to us and has been helpful to us as we’ve walked this road of having a special needs child.

Tell me about your loved one with cri du chat syndrome.
N was diagnosed at two weeks old. My husband, who is a physician assistant knew right away something was wrong. He kept asking me if his cry sounded like a cat and I responded with “I don’t know, honey I’ve never owned a cat before!” When we got the official diagnosis the geneticist’s first words were, “Congratulations dad, your diagnosis was correct.” It hardly felt like congratulations, especially since she went on to say that I would need a home health nurse in order to take a shower, curl my hair, or do my nails. I’m not sure why she felt compelled to say those things since I rarely do the later two anyway. Her presentation of the diagnosis was very difficult for me to process.

N is an incredibly sweet baby. He’s resilient in the face of many medical complications. He’s an observer, yet he’s already communicating in his own little ways. He’s very patient, but also incredibly motivated by the things he wants such as crinkly toys to chew on and being held and cuddled. He has great eye contact even from when he was an infant.

Tell me about doctor appointment, therapies or school.

We feel so blessed by some amazing doctors and therapists. N sees a lot of doctors: Neurology, Ophthalmology, ENT, Pulmonology, GI, Cardiology, Neurosurgery, Ortho, Urology, and Nephrology. it seems there aren’t many specialists he doesn’t see. We also added a doctor of Physical and Rehabilitative Medicine to the list last year who has been very helpful in creative problem solving and giving guidance with our therapy regime.

As his mom and main caregiver I am constantly trying to provide N the right mix of therapy. What types (OT, PT, ST, music, aqua, etc.)? How frequent? At home? In a clinic setting? I am learning that this is an ever-evolving process based on what N can handle physically, what I can manage within the schedule of our entire family, along with the skills and personality of each therapist. Just when I think I have it all figured out I discover that something needs to be added, taken away, or changed.
N’s biggest ongoing medical issue is gastrointestinal and urological complications. He’s chronically constipated and has been diagnosed with neurogenic bladder. At ten months he had surgery for a tethered spinal cord in the hopes that it work help his bladder/bowel function. We are still in “keep an eye on it” mode as he has high grade kidney reflux that has yet to resolve. His right kidney isn’t doing virtually any work and is prone to infections. We are still trying to learn more about what’s going on inside his little kidneys.

Tell me a success story.

Since birth N has not been able to eat by mouth. When he was in the NICU I was frustrated that the professionals wouldn’t let me try and feed him. He had a G-tube placed at five weeks old. Now I am grateful for their early advice because he is starting to do some tastes of food and has no oral aversions. He is doing vital stim therapy, which I believe has been very helpful to his progress. We have to drive a long way, twice a week for the therapy but I think it is paying off. He is also crawling, pulling to stand, saying “ba, ba, ba,” and never fails to giggle at his big brother.

The even bigger success story to me is not what N is doing, but how my heart is changing and falling more in love with him. I struggled to bond with him during the first year. I was overcome by the burden of his diagnosis and unable to see the blessing of his person that is buried in this syndrome. One of our favorite NICU doctors said, “Go ahead and learn everything you can about Cri du chat syndrome. Then, throw it out the window and be a student of N.” I am slowly letting go of my expectations for him based on his diagnosis and accepting who he is and who he is becoming. Two books were particularly helpful to me in that process were The Power of the Powerless by Christopher DeVinck and Disability and the Sovereign Goodness of God by John Piper.

What else would you like the world to know?

We are different because of N, but we are also the same. We still enjoy doing the same things, being with the same friends, the same things make us laugh. Our dreams have changed however, but in many ways for the better. N has inspired us and enriched our lives by showing us what is truly important. That is, he is teaching us that acceptance and love go far beyond your abilities.

Thank you Kathy!  You have a beautiful families, both of your boys look adorable and N. sounds like a fighter!  I really hope to meet you and your family one day!


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Carlena Britch – Have you heard of her?

This might look like a strange title but I am going somewhere with this.

So, if you don’t know who Carlena Britch is, check it out. She’s on twitter, facebook and instagram.

I also found this post about her:

She was on So You Think You Can Dance Canada a couple of years ago. This was one of our favorite performance.

Why am I telling you all that?

Is she a friend I am trying to promote? No, she’s not. She doesn’t know me, Emily or Jonathan. She has most likely never heard of the Cri Du Chat Syndrome either…

Emily and I discovered her when she was on SYTYCDC.

I was trying to get Emily interested in dancing. Not to do it, just for her to see the beauty in different styles and recognize the art of dancing as something beautiful…

Emily and I watched the tv show and picked Carlena as our favorite. She didn’t win the competition but for us, she was the best.

We liked her so much that Emily named one of her American girl doll after her.


Our Carlena doesn’t look like the real one but both of them are dancers! 🙂

Although Emily’s doll is named Carlena, we kinda forgot about the real Carlena until…

During the holidays, we saw the latest Justin Bieber movie. I know, you all have an opinion on Justin Bieber and this is not a post to argue or discuss my daughter’s love for him… This is a post about Emily and Carlena.

While watching the movie, we realized Carlena was a dancer on Justin’s last Tour. We were both quite happy to see her there and Emily couldn’t wait to tell her doll all about it!

Than, it happened.

I believed we discovered her on So You Think You Can Dance the US show and Emily believed it was on the Canadian show.

We left it at that! Or so I thought!

Earlier this week, I was reading in bed, Jonathan was napping and Emily was quiet in her room.

Suddenly, Emily walked in and asked me to come in her room. Here is how the conversation went.

Emily: Mom can you come to my room?

Me: Why?

Emily: I want to show you something?

Me: What?

Emily: Carlena, she was on So You Think You Can Dance Canada

Me: You found her on you tube?

Emily: Yes! I was right! …So… You were wrong!!!

She turned around and walked out of the room.

Jonathan and I laughed than I confirmed that this part of her personality was coming from him! 🙂

And this is why I am talking to you about Carlena Britch.

Months after we discovered her, Emily not only remembered her, she remembered the exact name of the tv show she was on, she managed to find her on You Tube and proved me wrong in my statement that she was on the US tv show.

If thats not a big achievement I am not sure what is!