Yesterday morning, Emily’s EA had a glimpse of Emily’s ability to turn into a small overwhelmed child in a teenager’s body.
I was there, I brought her back quickly and helped her manage the stressful situation to reach a positive outcome.
What triggered this?
An innocent enough announce that last class would end 30 minutes early for the students to have a pep rally before walking over to attend a football game.
A Pep rally in the cafeteria, something Emily has never experienced and is now imagining to be awful as it would be crowded and loud…
Pep rally are supposed to be fun and supposed to energize you before a big game.
My girl was scared, her eyes got watery, her smile turned upside down and she looked worried.
This was an instant reaction to a small talk we were having with her EA.
I looked at Emily, right in her eyes (its cool that I can do that standing now, no need to get on my knees to make eye contact) and ask her where my teenager went?
She knows, it’s our “cue” to bring her back. She took some deep breath while I was telling her that I needed to talk to my teenager so we could decide what we would do at 3pm.
She was completely focused on me and I on her. I hope her EA was paying attention as she might need to do this without me one day…
Emily’s tears were still really close but she managed to control whatever was going on.
I asked her if she wanted to stay for the pep rally and experienced it? She started the spiral descent into panic mode so I offered to pick her earlier than usual that way she could avoid the commotion. She agreed to that, dried her eyes, breathed in and out and left to go to class.
I know I could have avoided most of this by making arrangements to get her out of there before the pep rally as soon as it was mentioned but I want her to learn to manage those crisis so they stay little instead of turning into full meltdown. I can’t give her all the answers, she needs to learn to see her options and make her own decisions.
This one was a little crisis as I had my imaginary hand on my daughter’s pulse the whole time. I knew how far I could push her while trying to help her make a decision and see the options in front of her.
I am hoping her EA took some mental notes on how to help Emily navigate a potentially disastrous situation.
Only time will tell.
Was it wrong of me to try to walk Emily through this on her own? Should I have told her right away that I could pick her up earlier?