To meet an Olympian!

To be Emily’s mom means many different things.

One thing that seams more obvious as the years go by is that Emily opens doors. I don’t mean physical doors but rather opportunities.

On June 25th, Emily and I were invited to attend a gala/fundraiser for Special Olympics. We were invited by one of our main sponsor for Emily’s baseball team.

We were hoping for an opportunity to chat with some members of the government about our baseball program so we went in, Emily introduced herself, we took pictures and had an awesome meal.

The keynote speaker for the evening was Jon Montgomery.

Olympic champion (Whistler game) and host of the Amazing race Canada.

He describes himself on twitter (@jonmonty) as:

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During his address, Emily appeared to be mesmerized. She truly listened to him and at the end he said he was collecting fingerprints on his gold Olympic medal so if anyone wanted to touch it that we could go see him.

I figured that was probably going to be our best opportunity to get to touch a gold Olympic medal so we stood in line.

Emily was nervous even though she was obviously a “fan” following his speech. She didn’t want to go see him but wanted to go see him… I distracted her while we waited in line and suddenly it was our turn.

Here’s how it went.

Jon tried to put the medal around her neck so Emily stepped back saying “no, it’s okay” while reaching to just touch the medal and keeping a safe distance from the guy.

Obviously not the typical reaction he gets but he went with it and we took this lovely picture.

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I liked Jon Montgomery, he won a gold medal for Canada and drank beer straight from the pitcher while walking in Whistler. What’s not to love. I became a fan of Jon Montgomery seconds after we took that picture.

Right after we were done and should have been moved along Emily said: “Mom, tell him my story”.

I said: “Which one Emily, you have so many”

Emily: “You know, about my syndrome and the doctors said I can’t walk and I can’t talk…”

That’s precisely the moment where it happened.

Jon Montgomery looked at Emily and said : “but you walked here to meet me and you are telling me the story!”

Emily looked at him and said “I know!!!” With the facial expression and hand gesture to add to the words.

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The hug after that was automatic.

What Jon did that evening costed him nothing and might have added a couple of minutes of wait time for the people in line behind us. He paid attention to Emily and saw that she wanted him to know something about her. He listened to her and for that I will always be grateful.

When we got home, I found him on twitter and twitted the picture of them, thanking him for his time.

He retwitted my post and added this!

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How do you think that made my girl feel? Jon Montgomery told over 10,000 of his followers that Emily is amazing.

Jon, represents the best of the best. An Olympian and a truly remarkable human being. I am so happy we had a chance to meet him and grateful for the opportunity he gave Emily to share her story.

Most improved “swimming”

I asked Emily what my next blog should be about and she said: “My most improved award!”

So here we go….

In 2008-2009, Emily decided she would concentrate on her swimming.  She was going to free swim with Special Olympics and was invited to join the swim team!

This was serious swimming, they practiced once a week, doing lengths and having a coach telling her how to improve her technic..  It was difficult for Emily, she enjoyed free swim a lot but had to work hard at practice…

Practice was not her idea of fun anymore but she didn’t give up!

She kept going to practice and registered for a swim meet!

I was, once again, left speechless!

Swim meet day was beyond difficult for Emily… there was a crowd and teams from other part of New Brunswick and from the other Maritime provinces…

The crowd was loud… too loud!

Emily had to wait for her turn… the waiting was long… too long!

She had to sit with her team, I wasn’t sitting with her… she wanted to sit with us!

She cried and asked to leave and go home!

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I didn’t let her quit!  In my world, you don’t have to win but you are certainly not quitting.  You need to finish what you start!  We had a chat in the change room and she went back out!

She had her first race

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She did well!!!

Than she couldn’t find her t-shirt…

She cried!!!  Back in the change room, chatting about quitting, not quitting, the importance of a t-shirt…!

She went back out, we found her a t-shirt!  It wasn’t hers (according to her) but after some arguing and more tears, she took it!

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She had 3 more races and than she was done!

It was sandwich time!

Sitting with her family and “fan club”  🙂

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Emily was so proud of herself.  I was so proud of her!

Most people take for granted that their child will sign-up from something and they will be good at it.  They will give a 100% and they will go to meets and stay with their team and ignore their parents in the crowd because it’s not cool to have your parents there cheering for you!

Not us… every single step of every single decision needs to be discussed and agreed upon.  If something doesn’t go according to plan, it can get ugly quickly, not because she is a brat but because it’s just not working according to what she was expected….

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That day, Emily received prizes in all her races!  She was proud of herself!  But not enough to register to another meet!

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At the Special Olympics end of season gala, she received an award for most improved in swimming!

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At the gala, once she was done eating and had her award, she called it a night.  The dancing was starting and she doesn’t like loud music or crowd…  once again, this was a really difficult evening for her but she stayed as long as she could.

The following year when it was time to register for swimming she decided she wasn’t swimming anymore!   She hasn’t returned to swimming with Special Olympics since that 2008-2009 season!  She goes swimming with her school every year but she doesn’t want to be part of the swim team and won’t even go to “fun” swim night.

I have tried to talk to her about this and see if she could be convinced to at least go to fun swim as it is as much a social outing as it is an exercise thing…  but there is no way I can make her go!

When Emily says no, it means no.  She is stubborn, her no is as powerful as her determination to learn how to walk was…  once she makes up her mind, one way or the other, it is really hard, almost impossible, to make her go with another option.  I am actually quite proud of that…

We showed her how to make decisions for herself and when we offer her an option (yes or no) we have to be sure we can live with either option.  When it is a non-negotiable, we start with that, we don’t ask if she could…  we tell her what we are expecting…

Experience taught us well….

Back to swimming, she finished her season which was all I had required from her when she signed up!

I am so proud of her for not quitting, for facing her fears…!  Again and again…

What does it take for you to be proud of your kids?

Do they have to win?

Do they have to be the best?

What kind of pressure are you putting on them to achieve your goals?